Love Relationships during Postmodernism

I juggle between the advertisements of bars and clubs to understand where things are going and to make appropriate choices for us (Cascina Bellaria) and I feel old. Great tits and ass to make you faint, venues that imply the unbridled fun, the ease of making acquaintances all extremely cool people.

Difficult but interesting to try to see how much I have changed and am changing or how much the society in which I live does. What is certain is that we are moving fast in opposite directions.

I honestly wonder in the world out there how it is still possible to nurture a relationship.

Because it's kind of clear to me that time and dedication are needed but then again I think that maybe it is because I am the slow and unlucky one . It seems clear to me that for there to be a deep relationship, we must be able to overcome difficulties together, to go through hard times to let the joys and happy moments give a shape to being together as well as the difficulties and problems that must somehow be overcome.

Today, however, everything is fast and simplified and for this reason perhaps, so incredibly difficult. If you have a problem at home with Gina who woke up with her period and has an ingrown nail,there is Ginevra waiting for you swaggering and lively in the Bar "x" and can't wait to make your acquaintance. The relationship seems to have become a consumer product, commodified and sold as if it were placed on the shelves of a supermarket. Because if then Geneva is not exactly as you see her in the advertisement and bores you to death after 3 minutes together, you can change clubs or better yet use a dating site where there will be a Sara who is certainly the one for you.

I believe it is necessary to re-educate to slowness also in relationships, as well as in many other contexts, to train the ability to remain focused on the person you have chosen by relentlessly seeking that magical space in which you remain individual beings but at the same time you are one new entity. Perhaps this paradoxical space where one is ONE and at the same time TWO can be called Love.

m.m.